I invited my parents over to my place for lunch yesterday.. Cooked Mee Sua soup for them.. K kinda got sick of my mee sua soup so he went downstairs to have lunch instead.. I got my dad's maid to help me with the housework, and now my house is spick and span.. I don't think my toilet has been so clean before.. So happy!!
During lunch, i broke the news of my going to New Zealand to my parents.. The reaction i got was as expected.. My mom is never one to be open to the idea of going overseas for anything except for holidays, PROVIDED she must be IN the holiday plans.. Then the conversation on $$ came up.. without a stable salary, i wouldn't be able to give them as much monthly allowance per month.. plus my dad's monthly rehab fees and the maid's wages .. Sigh.. Why is it that there is such a huge difference between my parents-in-laws' reaction and those of my very own parents??
Should the next generation be punished if their parents did not plan well financially for the future (thereby having to depend heavily on their children)? Should i sacrifice my future and stop pursuing my dreams because my parents do not know how to save when they were younger?? I continue to ponder.. Sometimes i think i am born in the wrong country. I should be born in Europe / USA or some cultures where parents force their children out of home at the age of 16-17 so that they can live on their own and become more independent. My parents, i think they would want me to stay in Singapore for as long as possible or if possible, live with them forever, so that I can take care of them and continue to give them money every month. It's not that i don't want to take care of them, but can't i just take a break for 6 freakin' months??
Sometimes I just feel so tired.. What is the highest level of filial piety? Rather, what is the furthest we are willing to go to be filial? If one were to sacrifice everything and even be willing to die for their parents, even though he / she has the potential to have a bright future ahead, is that being very filial? Or just stupid? Would the situation change if the parents are the ones who ask their child to sacrifice everything and die for them? If the child listens and does it anyway, is he considered filial? Or plain stupid?
ANYWAY.. after lunch, K and I played mahjong with my parents till 5plus.. After which my parents left, and we headed out for my father in law's 60th birthday dinner. Dinner was at Jia Wei restaurant at Grand Mercure Roxy, with 2 tables of aunties, uncles and cousins. Food was unique and good, plus I got to play alot with a happy baby (K's cousin's baby boy)! Service was quite lousy though. The dumb waiter served the birthday cake while everybody was halfway through their desserts. Totally bad timing, and they didn't even bother to check with us first.
When we met my father in law yesterday, his surgery wound had healed much better. At least now not so red and swollen. He'll be removing the stitches tomorrow. Hopefully everything goes well..
I went to Grandma's for dinner today.. My sis, parents, and cousins were there. Now the whole family knows about my NZ trip. Mom did the whole "black face" thing and complained to my sister. I told them i might not come back if i really like it in NZ. In fact, there is a selfish part of me deep inside that just want to escape from all these and not come back.. hah. I should make this my birthday wish this year, perhaps it will come true.
During lunch, i broke the news of my going to New Zealand to my parents.. The reaction i got was as expected.. My mom is never one to be open to the idea of going overseas for anything except for holidays, PROVIDED she must be IN the holiday plans.. Then the conversation on $$ came up.. without a stable salary, i wouldn't be able to give them as much monthly allowance per month.. plus my dad's monthly rehab fees and the maid's wages .. Sigh.. Why is it that there is such a huge difference between my parents-in-laws' reaction and those of my very own parents??
Should the next generation be punished if their parents did not plan well financially for the future (thereby having to depend heavily on their children)? Should i sacrifice my future and stop pursuing my dreams because my parents do not know how to save when they were younger?? I continue to ponder.. Sometimes i think i am born in the wrong country. I should be born in Europe / USA or some cultures where parents force their children out of home at the age of 16-17 so that they can live on their own and become more independent. My parents, i think they would want me to stay in Singapore for as long as possible or if possible, live with them forever, so that I can take care of them and continue to give them money every month. It's not that i don't want to take care of them, but can't i just take a break for 6 freakin' months??
Sometimes I just feel so tired.. What is the highest level of filial piety? Rather, what is the furthest we are willing to go to be filial? If one were to sacrifice everything and even be willing to die for their parents, even though he / she has the potential to have a bright future ahead, is that being very filial? Or just stupid? Would the situation change if the parents are the ones who ask their child to sacrifice everything and die for them? If the child listens and does it anyway, is he considered filial? Or plain stupid?
ANYWAY.. after lunch, K and I played mahjong with my parents till 5plus.. After which my parents left, and we headed out for my father in law's 60th birthday dinner. Dinner was at Jia Wei restaurant at Grand Mercure Roxy, with 2 tables of aunties, uncles and cousins. Food was unique and good, plus I got to play alot with a happy baby (K's cousin's baby boy)! Service was quite lousy though. The dumb waiter served the birthday cake while everybody was halfway through their desserts. Totally bad timing, and they didn't even bother to check with us first.
When we met my father in law yesterday, his surgery wound had healed much better. At least now not so red and swollen. He'll be removing the stitches tomorrow. Hopefully everything goes well..
I went to Grandma's for dinner today.. My sis, parents, and cousins were there. Now the whole family knows about my NZ trip. Mom did the whole "black face" thing and complained to my sister. I told them i might not come back if i really like it in NZ. In fact, there is a selfish part of me deep inside that just want to escape from all these and not come back.. hah. I should make this my birthday wish this year, perhaps it will come true.
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